Introverts also don’t want to socialize every day. Every social interaction drains a little bit of energy, and after a few consecutive days of socializing, we need to shut down. After days of interacting, my brain feels stuffed with other people’s words. They rattle and chatter and knock around and I want to shake them out my ears. That’s when I turn down even invitations I might otherwise accept. When I’ve hit the wall of socializing, no invitation sounds like as much fun as being alone. Our limited ability to socialize causes us to be selective about whom we see when, and how. We are reluctant to squander precious social energy on empty-calorie encounters.
-Sophia Dembling
For me, sometimes family vacations can be draining. Knowing that I won’t have very much (if any) time to myself–for a long weekend or a whole week–can make me fairly anxious. That feeling does go away, and I’m able to enjoy hanging out with my parents and siblings. However, that feeling I get when I walk in the door of my apartment once the vacation is over…amazing! I’m back in my own space.
I absolutely adore my family and I like my co-workers very much, but I cannot be around them all the time. 😉
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I can totally relate to this. I just got back from a holiday and even though I had a wonderful time, it was pure bliss to spend that first afternoon back just alone in my own space, replenishing.
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There really is no feeling like coming home 🙂
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I completely agree. That feeling as you walk in the door, coming home to your own space is a wonderful one 🙂
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I really like that turn of phrase: “empty-calorie encounters.” I can only handle so much of those, and some people never provide anything more than that.
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Me too! Such a great phrase. Going to think of that the next time I’m struggling to say no to a coffee invite from some colleague I worked with once 3 years ago.
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I have such a hard time refusing invitations, even when I know they’re going to be a waste of time.
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Me too, its frustrating to use up all your energy spending time with people, when you don’t get any meaningful experiences or connections in return.
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