I apologize for the lack of activity this past couple of weeks. Things have been stressful and busy schedules and personal conflicts have been uppermost in my mind. It finally feels like I’ve surfaced and come up for air. Getting back on top of my stress management (workouts, dance, mindfulness and going for walks) has helped a lot too. One of the things I’ve learned is how unrealistic expectations cause a lot of problems.
I hold myself to very unrealistic expectations. I expect perfection and get frustrated when I inevitably can’t live up to those standards. Even if I’ve never done it before. Even if it doesn’t make sense. Taking dance classes as a beginner has helped remind me that it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to say “I don’t know”. Any skill develops with instruction and practice. Life itself is a process and attitude really is everything.
I also hold others to high expectations. It’s not to say that you shouldn’t expect great things from people. But there’s a huge difference between expecting perfection and being realistic. By discarding unrealistic expectations you can start viewing yourself and others as human beings. Flawed human beings who have issues, problems, and baggage. But also human beings who are engaging, bright, and have incredible futures ahead of them. We’re all in the same boat. So I’m learning to be more patient with myself and more understanding towards others.