Reflections on decision making

3773719117_96412617a5_zI think before I speak, a trait common to many introverts. Although I may come across as passive, simply because I’m quiet and take time to think, nothing could be further from the truth. I have strong passions, very strong opinions, and no problem making decisions. I credit this to my parents who taught me to make a decision and stick with it.

Similarly, although I prefer to be an observer, if there isn’t a clear leader in charge, I’m willing to step up. However, if you place me in that position (due to your own indecision) please respect my choices. Now I’m referring mostly to silly things like ‘where shall we eat lunch’ but it can apply in other areas as well.

I have a friend who constantly challenges this and I’m not entirely sure why. For example, we’ll typically get together for lunch. They’ll tell me to pick a place. When I ask if they have a preference, they say they don’t. I’ll find a place that has gluten-free options (so I can eat) but is something I know they’ll enjoy. I’ll tell them the place and specify a location that’s close to both of us. They’ll agree and we’ll set a date and time.

Inevitably, a few hours before we’re scheduled to meet, I’ll get a text message suggesting a new restaurant instead. Had they suggested this when I originally asked for feedback, I would have been happy to accommodate them. But if you aren’t going to respect my decision, why give me the choice to begin with?

I consider a lot of things before making a decision, but once the decision is made, I stick to it (while still trying to be flexible if something unexpected happens). I want to be known as a person of my word.

What kind of a decision maker are you?

Image credit: “Path” by bartb_pt is licensed under CC by 2.0


Autumn Reflections – Day 30


All things must come to an end. While autumn will technically continue until Dec 22, you can already see the change in the seasons. There’s a covering of snow on the ground and most of the leaves have already fallen from the trees. But with the end of one thing, comes the beginning of another. While autumn is saying its farewells, we can look forward to another season taking its place. Winter is just about here and there are many things to look forward to.

A tangerine and russet cascade of kaleidoscopic leaves, creates a tapestry of autumn magic upon the emerald carpet of fading summer.
-Judith A. Lindberg

Autumn Reflections – Day 29


Autumn lends itself to reminiscing and contemplation. To thoughts of past classmates, old friends, and scattered family. I often think about what they’re doing today. Did they wake up feeling content and happy? What have they been up to, are they happy with the direction their lives have taken? I often wonder if I cross their mind at all, how often do they think of good times and old memories? I hope they’re having a good day, and that their life is fulfilling and full of hope.

October’s poplars are flaming torches lighting the way to winter.
-Nova Bair

Autumn Reflections – Day 28


As you may have noticed, I love taking pictures. In autumn, the trees are showing off their bright and cheerful colours, making it difficult to take a bad shot. I really enjoy taking photos of flowers, trees, paths, and landscapes. I also love framing interesting shots of buildings and architecture. Its so much fun to wander around outside looking for the perfect shot.  Autumn is definitely a season that encourages photography. Everything is so beautiful that people can’t help but want to capture it on film.

Now Autumn’s fire burns slowly along the woods. And day by day the dead leaves fall and melt.
-William Allingham

Autumn Reflections – Day 27


On my recent trip to the east coast, my family and I spent several nights at my grandparent’s cottage. Its a small place, tucked away in the countryside, miles away from any city or town. There are no street lights, so when night falls, it gets very dark outside. When I looked up into the heavens, thousands of stars glittered against the dark backdrop of the sky. It was beautiful. Its difficult to describe how I felt, it makes you feel small in comparison to our huge universe.

No spring nor summer beauty hath such grace, as I have seen in one autumnal face.
-John Donne

Autumn Reflections – Day 26


Once autumn comes around, I find myself doing more baking than usual. My usual go-to recipes are cookies and brownies. They’re always really easy to put together. Sometimes I’ll make a cake or cheesecake, but only if I’ve been invited somewhere. There’s nothing like the smell of freshly baked cookies right out of the oven, and the scent usually lingers for most of the day. Since becoming gluten free, its been more of a challenge to find good recipes that are just like the ‘normal’ ones. But it’s been rewarding, and delicious.

Autumn, the year’s last, loveliest smile.
-William Cullen

Autumn Reflections – Day 25


Last year during autumn, I started crocheting. As the temperature falls and the days get shorter, I usually spend more time indoors. Having a creative project to work on is a great way to be both relaxed and productive. After dinner, I’ll usually put on a movie or series that I’m watching and pull out my crochet. I can relax and enjoy the show while still feeling productive. Plus, scarves and hats make great handmade gifts. Its a win-win situation.

Autumn burned brightly, a running flame through the mountains, a torch flung to the trees.
-Faith Baldwin

Autumn Reflections – Day 24


Autumn is a great time to explore the area where you live. To go for a walk somewhere you haven’t been before. Perhaps recording the experience with your camera. This past weekend I spent a few hours wandering the down town area with a few friends. We found a tiny alleyway nestled between two tall brick buildings, barely wide enough for someone to fit through. An old fashioned fire escape ran up the side of a building, and towering glass and metal skyscrapers reached into the sky. It was an interesting mixture of both old and new.

There is a harmony in autumn, and a lustre in its sky, which through the summer is not heard or seen, as if it could not be, as if it had not been!
-Percy Bysshe Shelley

Autumn Reflections – Day 23


As the weather grows colder, I start to appreciate and crave comfort foods. Eating hearty soups and stews, especially after a day outside, makes me feel warm and cozy. I love making crock pot recipes, throwing a bunch of ingredients together and letting the flavours mingle. Making large quantities of food is great for sharing with friends, or as leftovers the next day. And I’ll rarely say no to a cup of hot chocolate 🙂

Autumn is the eternal corrective. It is ripeness and color and a time of maturity; but it is also breadth, and depth, and distance. What man can stand with autumn on a hilltop and fail to see the span of his world and the meaning of the rolling hills that reach to the far horizon?
-Hal Borland