15 things about me

coffee-2179009_1920It’s been a slightly slower day and I’ve had a little bit of time to write. I wanted to share a fun post where you can get to know me a little better. Here are a few things about me. Most of these relate to me being introverted and highly sensitive. I’d love to find out more about you too, so feel free to share in the comments 🙂

1. I love people. But social time has to be in small increments or with people I value highly. I find group activities exhausting.

2. I need a lot of alone time to recharge after I’ve been socially active.

3. I crave emotional depth in my relationships.

4. I’m far better at writing things out than speaking. Writing lets me sort out my thoughts and feelings and I can take my time choosing the best words to convey my meaning.

5. What I say is a tiny percentage of what’s going on in my mind.

6. I tend to internalize stress. I’m working on improving, dance and workouts help a lot with stress relief.

7. It’s easy for me to view things from another person’s perspective. It’s frustrating to deal with those who can only see the world one way.

8. I’m very perceptive and have a good idea of how someone is feeling even if they don’t say anything.

9. I hold myself and others to incredibly high standards. But I’m working on this too, as it tends to create disappointment and frustration most of the time.

10. You know I’m comfortable with you if I act silly or sing in front of you.

11. I analyze everything. Literally everything.

12. Just because I’m quiet doesn’t mean I’m not enjoying myself. I just show it differently.

13. If you interrupt me and don’t apologize, I’ll assume you’re not interested in my thoughts. And I’ll be less likely to offer my opinions in the future (especially if its a recurring thing).

14. I care deeply about others, especially my family and close friends. I would do anything for them.

15. If I want to say something, I will. Don’t try to pressure me into speaking, it won’t work.

Hope you have a great weekend!

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The simple life

architecture-1087820_1920I love a simple life. A quiet existence where I have everything I need and nothing more. Having too much stuff distracts me from what’s really important. It’s the people who matter to me, not the things. I want my mind to be free to focus on what I value: my relationships and self-improvement.

Unfortunately, I have a pack-rat for a roommate. She displays knickknacks throughout the living room and likes to stack her entire tea collection on the kitchen counter. But it’s her space too, so I try to keep things in perspective.

While I may not have complete control over the shared spaces, my room is different. My room is my sanctuary. It’s clean and quiet. There’s no clutter. A few frames adorn the walls, a string of lights, some travel shots. It’s a cute room with matching colours and simple pleasures. It’s very much me. It’s my escape and where I go to unwind.

Since our shift into winter, I’ve had more time to clean and tidy up indoors. I can remove the clutter that slowly piles up and reclaim the quiet corners of my room. This past week I’ve gone through my room, closet, and storage bins, purging them of unnecessary items. It’s a work in progress but clearing out space in my closet is so addicting!

How’s your week been?

5 roommate tips

people-2561065_1920I wrote an earlier post here on roommate challenges. They’re definitely still there but I had a good conversation with my roommate last night and I’m hopeful. I can’t remember how it began. But we ended up talking about our differences in energy and how much social time we need. I’m hoping I was able to articulate how essential quiet time is for me. It’s also helped me better understand how she functions. It was comfortable and hopefully leads to some small positive changes. I wanted to share a few things that have helped me and given me a more balanced perspective on things.

1. Communication is key.
This is vital in any relationship but especially if you live with the person. I need to tell her when I’m feeling burned out and that I’ll be recharging for a couple of hours. That way she won’t feel like I’m purposely avoiding her. Having a self-deprecating, “it’s me, not you” kind of attitude can help too.

2. Door closed = quiet time.
If I want to be alone, I shut my door. That’s the signal that I’m recharging or busy. I also hang a sign on my door with a cute illustration and the words “recharging – do not disturb”. I’m also working to create a peaceful oasis in my room for maximum relaxation.

3. Reset your perspective.
As an introvert, dealing with an extrovert’s chattiness can be a challenge. But it’s just as challenging for an extrovert to deal with an introvert’s aloofness and not take it personally. Extroverts need to socialize as much as we need them to leave us alone. When you have a roommate, the shared spaces are no longer places to recharge. They become the social hub. So if I’m in the living room, it’s because I’m mentally prepared to talk.

4. Find other escapes.
Shutting the door isn’t the only way to get alone time. I like to go for long walks after supper for some much needed quiet time and reflection. Even a solo gym or coffee date can help me decompress as well.

5. Compromise.
I need a lot of quiet time and I will take what I need. But I value my friendship with her and don’t want her to feel that she’s living with a stranger. So every night I’ll spend some time with her. We’ll either eat dinner together or chat for a bit before bed. We get to connect and I still get my quiet time.

Any other ideas?