This is my third and final post on the topic of social events. In a perfect world, I’d have plenty of time to prepare for an event, I’d pace myself, and I’d leave with energy to spare. Unfortunately, real life rarely goes according to plan. I wanted to share a few things I do after a social event to recharge.
1. Put things away.
As soon as I get home, I put away everything I’ve brought with me. I hang up my coat, put my shoes in the closet, and tuck away my bag. This is sometimes hard when all I feel like doing is falling into my bed. But keeping my room clean makes me feel better.
2. Don’t overanalyze.
Don’t beat yourself up over what you may have said or done. There will be time for self-reflection later. Don’t dwell on the negatives. Focus on giving yourself time to recharge.
Take the quiet time you need. Make sure you’re alone. Do things that make you feel happy and refreshed. Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish. You’re worth taking care of.
Laughter is great for stress relief and I always feel so much better after watching a funny movie or comedy videos on Youtube.
5. Mentally prepare for future interaction.
You’ll have to eventually go to work, interact with family, grocery shop, etc. Mentally prepare yourself to interact with people. Or take measures to minimize your energy drain. A pair of headphones helps shut out most of the chatter at the grocery store. And self-checkouts are a lifesaver.
6. Connect with loved ones.
As both introverts and human beings, we crave meaningful connections. Take the alone time you need. But take time afterward to connect with those you care about.
7. Create an oasis in your home.
Make a space in your home that can be used for quiet. Put things in it that you love. My favourite place is a comfy armchair in my room. It’s draped with cozy throws and pillows. I love curling up in it while reading a good book. If that’s not possible, a quiet spot outside can work beautifully too.
8. Take lots of small breaks.
It’s usually not feasible to disappear for days or weeks on end. Try to work quiet time into your daily schedule. It will help keep you refreshed throughout the week. Some things I enjoy doing include light reading before bed, going for a walk, working out, dancing, cooking while listening to my favourite podcast, planning out my week, and taking care of my herb garden.
9. Don’t feel guilty.
Being introverted is a gift and is just as wonderful as being extroverted. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. Also, there’s nothing wrong with you. You aren’t defective or somehow less of a person because of the way you function. You are an incredible individual with so much potential.
Do you have any other tips or tricks?
Last weekend, I flew out to the US for my best friend’s wedding. It was a wonderful weekend and I’m so glad I was able to make it. However, it was also incredibly busy.
I flew out Thursday afternoon and arrived around 11 PM after a flight delay. My friend picked me up from the airport and we drove to her place. We talked for a bit but headed to bed around midnight since she had work the next morning. I puttered around for the morning and then met up with her for lunch. After eating, we drove a few boxes over to their new house and I got to see the place. Then we spent the evening with her family.
Saturday was a flurry of activity. Family brunch, social events, family dinner, and wedding set up filled the day. Once tables were set and decorated, sound systems tested, and lights hung, it was time to head home.
Sunday dawned bright and early. I made a quick breakfast for the two of us. Then we dashed out the door around 8 AM, quickly grabbing dresses and accessories on the way out. We started working on wedding hair until 9 AM, then headed down for rehearsal. We ran through things a few times so everyone knew what they were doing. At 10 AM we headed back to finish up hair, steam dresses, and get the bride into hers. We took group photos for about an hour. The ceremony began at noon, with a reception to follow while the bride, groom, and family took photos. The rest of the wedding party grabbed food and something for the toasts.
The bride and groom made their entrance and enjoyed their first dance. The father-daughter and mother-son dances followed. Then they sat down for the toasts. More dancing ensued while people offered their congratulations to the happy couple. Then they left for their honeymoon and those who remained helped with the cleanup. After a couple of hours, things were back to normal. I headed out to catch up with friends. But was back early to pack up my suitcase and prepare for an early flight the next morning.
It was an incredible weekend. I was so honoured to be there for my friend’s wedding. It was wonderful getting to watch her marry her best friend. But by the end of it, my introvert self was extremely burned out. These past few days have included going to bed early, getting lots of quiet time, and taking care of myself. Fortunately, my roommate has been working evenings, so I’ve had the place to myself for the most part.
How was your weekend?