6 Things About Me

On a lighter note, I wanted to share a few things about me. Let me know if you feel similarly, or if you’re completely different. I always enjoy hearing from you 🙂

I enjoy a slower pace of living.
I love mornings on the weekend. Since I don’t have to rush to work, I can take my time getting up. I’ll brew up a mug of coffee whilst checking on my plants and making sure they’re watered and happy. I’ll wander around the living room and tidy things up. Or nestle onto the couch and watch the bright sunshine stream in through the open windows. It’s the perfect way to start the day.

I prefer being alone most of the time.
I rarely find myself feeling lonely. Ironically, I often feel the most alone when I’m in a crowd of people. But when I’m at home, puttering around, or spending time on creative pursuits, I feel very content. I still enjoy the company of people, just in small doses.

I have a calming presence.
I’ve had people tell me that spending time with me calms them down. Even in stressful situations, I apparently give off chill and relaxed vibes. I guess that’s a good thing as I like making people feel comfortable.

Most people don’t know the real me.
On the outside I’m quiet and reserved while still being friendly. But if you’re paying attention, you might notice I don’t share a whole lot about me. Only a few have seen me at my most authentic and vulnerable.

I hate small talk.
Years of customer service has honed my ability to converse in small talk. But I still don’t enjoy it. I can tolerate it as a way to break the ice. But when the entire conversation is small talk, I find myself going just a little bit insane. I then start plotting ways to excuse myself and escape the conversation. I have even hid in washrooms to avoid small talk.

I don’t answer the phone very often.
If I don’t recognize a name or number, I won’t pick up. If it’s important they’ll leave a message. I’ve also been known to stare at incoming calls and let them go to voicemail. Then I call back when I’m mentally prepared to talk.

5 Things About Me

I thought it would be fun to do a lighter post. Here are a few things about me you may not know.

1. The older I get, the less I care what others think.
This has been so incredibly freeing for me. I’m still a people-pleaser at heart, something I’m working to overcome, but I feel more at peace. There’s no longer any intense pressure to conform to what I think others want.

2. I write far better than I speak.
Writing gives me time to sort through my thoughts and feelings and choose the most appropriate word for the occasion. Thankfully I’m blessed with family and friends who are patient when I mix my words together or stutter (which happens if I’m nervous or tired).

3. I find it easy to see things from another’s perspective.
Travel and personal experiences have broadened my world. It’s far richer for all the people I’ve met and interacted with. However, it also can become frustrating when dealing with those who only see life one way.

4. I internalize stress.
I never knew how to handle stress as I was growing up. I’d simply shoulder everything until it overwhelmed me. Then I’d have an emotional meltdown (usually over something small and insignificant). Over the last 5+ years I’ve been learning to be more proactive. Meditation, mindfulness, exercise, and time in nature has helped me alleviate and deal with stress.

5. I find labels helpful but am not defined by them.
I’m an introvert (specifically INFJ) and a HSP (highly sensitive person). Learning there was a reason for the way I thought and functioned completely changed my perspective. I finally felt normal. That being said, I don’t find myself constrained by labels and am always pushing for self improvement.

What’s something interesting about you?

Who am I?

woman-3094278_1920.jpgI’ve always been quiet. But it wasn’t until I started school that I discovered most people didn’t see this as a good thing. I was told, “she needs to speak up more, she’s too quiet” more times than I can count. Apparently my high marks and large circle of friends wasn’t proof enough of my worth. So imagine my absolute delight and relief when I read over the INFJ description after taking the Meyers-Briggs test.

I devoured everything I could find on the subject. I read Quiet by Susan Cain and several others. These all shaped my growing perception of what introversion is. I wasn’t broken or deficient. I process things differently. Yes, I’m easily overwhelmed and burn out quickly. But I can connect and empathize with others on a deeper level. Yes, I’ll never have the energy of an extrovert. But I notice and appreciate beautiful things that most walk right by. This is a gift. And as I’ve embraced my introversion, I’ve become more confident.

But while I still label myself as an introvert, I’m not defined by it. It’s one small part of who I am. I’m wonderfully tall with a dry, sarcastic sense of humour. I love to laugh and share silly videos with my family. I love strength training and ballroom dance. I read and cook and sew and run. I’m a friend, confidante, and coworker. I’m creative and loving and forgiving. I’m still learning to create and enforce boundaries. I’m taking more of the time I need to recharge.

Thank you for checking out my posts, sharing likes and comments, and reaching out. Hope you have a great weekend!