5 tips – prep for social events

kyoto-210092_1920.jpgI recently wrote about my busy weekend and my struggles before and during. I’ve been thinking about it a lot. One of my biggest problems was that I didn’t prepare for the weekend like an introvert. I was so focused on finishing all the tasks that I neglected to take care of myself. I assumed I’d have enough energy. Even though I hadn’t taken steps to recharge along the way. I wanted to share a few tips I’ll be using to avoid this problem in the future.

1. Schedule quiet time.
Plan for quiet time both before and after the event. Choose activities that are relaxing and rejuvenating. Write it in the calendar. Then follow through. If you can’t take a large chunk of time, take advantage of small moments of quiet. Some time is always better than none.

2. Embrace the unexpected.
As an introvert, I’m a planner. There’s nothing more satisfying than when a plan works out perfectly. But life is unpredictable and messy. I need to be okay with this. Having a flexible mindset doesn’t make the problems go away. But accepting that things can go wrong helps me to react more positively to changes and difficulties.

3. Mentally prepare.
I know that by going to a social event, I’ll be interacting with people. It will be draining. I try to remind myself that this is a perfectly normal feeling. I’m not weird or strange. I may not experience social events like an extrovert but I can certainly enjoy it my own way.

4. Dress for success.
When I wear something that makes me feel confident, that feeling extends to my interactions with others. I also try to wear something that’s fairly comfortable. When I start getting burned out, my physical sensations are heightened and wearing chafing or tight clothing makes me feel worse.

5. Plan your exit (in advance).
Before you even arrive at the event, set up a rough timeline. Decide what time you’re going to leave and give yourself permission to do so. If the time arrives and you want to stay longer, that’s great. But keep checking in with yourself. Try to leave before burnout sets in. It’s a lot easier to recharge a partially-filled battery than an empty one. Don’t feel guilty for leaving early. Taking care of yourself is the most important thing you can do.

Do you have any other tips?


19 thoughts on “5 tips – prep for social events

  1. Liz says:

    I certainly need my quiet time after an event, but never thought about before and I think this is what I could put in practice.

    I’m same as you when it comes to clothes, it has to be comfortable, otherwise it adds to the effects what I am feeling.


  2. live_a_life_less_ordinary says:

    My tip: If the event in question is a murder mystery party where you have to interact with people and pretend to be someone else, and the party is at your ex-girlfriend’s house and she invited a bunch of boorish horny drunk guys to flirt with, then don’t even bother going.

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  3. Bart Leahy says:

    I’ve got to give a presentation and I recklessly scheduled a social gathering with friends in a town I used to work in just to catch up. My primary “prep” for giving the talk has been rehearsing. My primary prep for the social gathering will be to stay quiet and away from people most of the day. πŸ™‚

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  4. Laura Spitler says:

    Wow, this really resonates with me! Especially the bit about clothing – I’ve never heard a fellow introvert voice that before. For instance if I’m at a conference and expected to interact with others all day then clothes that are too tight, itchy, etc are the last straw. I need comfortable clothes to make it through the day.

    I was just thinking about my schedule tomorrow I’ll leave the house at 9am and not return until after midnight and I’m already mentally exhausted just thinking about it. All the things I have to do would be fun on their own, but crammed in the same day is a lot. And they all involve me needing to talk, lead, or be peppy and social.

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    • Ally says:

      So happy it resonated with you. I hope tomorrow goes well for you. I know how draining it is to be “on” for the whole day. I hope you have plenty of time to recharge afterward! Thank you for commenting πŸ™‚


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