Height & confidence

dance-2954461_1920I’ve felt uncomfortable with my height for much of my life. In elementary school I was slightly taller than my classmates. By junior high and high school I hit a growth spurt and was taller than all the girls and most of the guys. As a quiet, introverted teenager, the last thing I wanted to do was stick out. I spent a lot of time slouching and hunched over because I wanted to blend in. But as time continued, and I entered my early twenties, I found close friends who loved my height and would tell me so. They were encouraging and never said things that made me feel awkward about being tall.

Being tall definitely comes with its challenges. To this day, I’m still approached by strangers asking how tall I am. I’ll usually reply with “it’s a secret”. I’ve heard “how’s the weather up there” more times than I can remember. I’ve been asked if I play basketball countless times. I have to bend over while showering because the shower head is usually at shoulder level. My legs are too long to take a comfortable bath. I smack my head on a lot of things. Shorts, dresses, and skirts are too short. And the list goes on.

But being tall also comes with many advantages. I love how long my legs are and I’ll wear heels if I want to feel classy (just not all the time because I like being comfortable). I can reach everything in the grocery store, including the stuff on the top shelves. I can see over most crowds. People can’t look down on you if you tower over them. People also take me more seriously since I command attention with my height. I’m still a bit self-conscious even now. But I’m working to improve my posture and stop slouching.

Last night I attended a Cha Cha class. Towards the end of the evening I was dancing with the instructor (who is also wonderfully tall) and he made a remark I appreciated. I usually hunch over when I dance, so he told me I needed to open up my chest more and stand up taller. He said that being tall, I’ve usually looked down on people (physically) because of my height. But he said that isn’t my problem and I don’t need to feel ashamed of how tall I am. It was a good reminder to be confident. I don’t need to let the insecurities of the past colour my life now.

Have you had similar experiences?

10 thoughts on “Height & confidence

  1. mawil1 says:

    lol I’m a titch with short little legs. Also blonde. It doesn’t command authority! But now I’m old it doesn’t seem to matter, the wrinkles give me gravitas!

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  2. pearlgirl says:

    I have the opposite problem. I’m 5’2″ and have always been super insecure about being the shortest one in any group. I always wished I was taller and feel my height has made me even more easily intimidated by others. On the flip side, there are times I can also just disappear. Good or bad depending on the situation, but mostly I’ve just felt less than everyone around me. Slowly coming to terms with it as I’m getting older, and I think it’s important for us to embrace the bodies we have, rather than the ones we want. Not to say we can’t try to be fit or healthy or anything like that. These are the only bodies we have. If we can’t be confident in it, others can tell and that changes their perception of us more than a body type ever could.

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    • Ally says:

      That’s very true. We have to do all we can to take care of ourselves, but to also accept and appreciate the body we’ve been given. I’m definitely still coming to that point but it’s getting better πŸ™‚

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