Finding peace of mind

jizo-2794143_1920I apologize for the lack of activity this past couple of weeks. Things have been stressful and busy schedules and personal conflicts have been uppermost in my mind. It finally feels like I’ve surfaced and come up for air. Getting back on top of my stress management (workouts, dance, mindfulness and going for walks) has helped a lot too. One of the things I’ve learned is how unrealistic expectations cause a lot of problems.

I hold myself to very unrealistic expectations. I expect perfection and get frustrated when I inevitably can’t live up to those standards. Even if I’ve never done it before. Even if it doesn’t make sense. Taking dance classes as a beginner has helped remind me that it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to say “I don’t know”. Any skill develops with instruction and practice. Life itself is a process and attitude really is everything.

I also hold others to high expectations. It’s not to say that you shouldn’t expect great things from people. But there’s a huge difference between expecting perfection and being realistic. By discarding unrealistic expectations you can start viewing yourself and others as human beings. Flawed human beings who have issues, problems, and baggage. But also human beings who are engaging, bright, and have incredible futures ahead of them. We’re all in the same boat. So I’m learning to be more patient with myself and more understanding towards others.

11 thoughts on “Finding peace of mind

  1. Soul Searching says:

    I struggle with unrealistic expectations for myself and others, too. 😦 I’m glad to know I’m not alone.

    My week is going well. Thank you for asking.

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  2. Nor Liana says:

    Well..I usually thought that I am well-equipped for the world by the motto “Hope for the best, but expect (and prepare) for the worst.”

    Turns out it’s easier said than done. Too many times, despite being prepared for it mentally, they still affect me emotionally.

    But glad you got to analyze yourself , as part of solving and dealing is assessing and accepting :).

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