I think before I speak, a trait common to many introverts. Although I may come across as passive, simply because I’m quiet and take time to think, nothing could be further from the truth. I have strong passions, very strong opinions, and no problem making decisions. I credit this to my parents who taught me to make a decision and stick with it.
Similarly, although I prefer to be an observer, if there isn’t a clear leader in charge, I’m willing to step up. However, if you place me in that position (due to your own indecision) please respect my choices. Now I’m referring mostly to silly things like ‘where shall we eat lunch’ but it can apply in other areas as well.
I have a friend who constantly challenges this and I’m not entirely sure why. For example, we’ll typically get together for lunch. They’ll tell me to pick a place. When I ask if they have a preference, they say they don’t. I’ll find a place that has gluten-free options (so I can eat) but is something I know they’ll enjoy. I’ll tell them the place and specify a location that’s close to both of us. They’ll agree and we’ll set a date and time.
Inevitably, a few hours before we’re scheduled to meet, I’ll get a text message suggesting a new restaurant instead. Had they suggested this when I originally asked for feedback, I would have been happy to accommodate them. But if you aren’t going to respect my decision, why give me the choice to begin with?
I consider a lot of things before making a decision, but once the decision is made, I stick to it (while still trying to be flexible if something unexpected happens). I want to be known as a person of my word.
What kind of a decision maker are you?