I think before I speak. I also speak slowly and methodically. This isn’t a bad thing. However, this often leads to others interrupting me while I’m speaking. When this happens, I’ll usually just bite my tongue and let the conversation continue. I’m not one to make a scene. But being interrupted does bother me. I’ve been thinking about this topic for a while now and thought I’d write an open letter to those who interrupt me:
I hope you’re having a great day so far. There’s something that’s been bothering me for a while now and I really wanted to talk to you about it. I thought about broaching the subject to you in person, but I can express myself better through writing, so I decided to write you a letter.
You already know that I’m a pretty easy going person. It takes a lot to upset me. But one thing that does bother me is being interrupted while I’m speaking. And you tend to do this on a regular basis. As an introvert, it takes me a long time to think of what I want to say and how I want to say it. As a result, I usually don’t speak as much as those around me. I understand that extroverts are naturally able to speak more readily than I am. They will probably talk for longer too, but that doesn’t bother me. What does bother me is being interrupted.
You may not realize it, but when someone interrupts me, they’re sending a very obvious message. Whether or not it is their intention, and I’m assuming it is not, being interrupted tells me that they’re not interested in what I have to say. My opinion doesn’t matter. They’d rather continue talking about “insert subject here”.
Being interrupted is a horrible feeling. When I’m in a conversation, I’m constantly thinking. I’m thinking hard about what I want to say and what words will best convey my meaning. It takes me a long time to do this. When I finally have a comment to add, I’ll wait for a break in the conversation so I don’t accidentally interrupt someone. Then I’ll summon up all my courage and speak the few words I’ve come up with. After all this work, you can imagine how frustrating it is when someone cuts you off. Its so discouraging. And the more I’m interrupted, the less likely I am to speak next time.
I totally understand that accidents happen. If someone inadvertently interrupts me, I really appreciate it when they apologize and let me finish my thought. At least I know they’re interested in what I have to say.
I’m want you to know I’m not angry or upset with you. I just wanted to share my thoughts with you and if you’d like to discuss this further, let me know.
What would you like to tell people who interrupt you?