I’ve gotten a lot of unsolicited advice from people throughout the years. One of the things I’ve probably been told the most is to, “be yourself”. Although often well-intentioned, this is an extremely vague statement. Yes, I do act differently around people, depending on my relationship to them. Yes, people might only see the part of me that I choose to share. But its still me. I’m not pretending to be someone else.
But I’ve also found some amazing advice that I’d love to share. One thing I really took to heart was to accept yourself for who you are. Accept that you have struggles and problems and issues. But also that you’re awesome, unique and have something amazing to share with the world. This is way easier said than done, and I usually fail at this terribly, but I think its worth thinking about. I know it’ll take me a long time to fully accept myself, but I know that I need to understand my weaknesses and strengths. Then I can work to overcome my weaknesses, and even if I fail, I can keep moving forward. I also need to realize that I have a lot of strengths to draw on when I need. And I need to treat my introversion as a strength.
Another great piece of advice is to be true to yourself. Don’t let others put negative labels on you. This could be your friends, family and co-workers that force their own ideas about who you are, onto you. Don’t force yourself to do things you aren’t comfortable with. Its good to stretch beyond your comfort zone at times, but it has to be on your own terms. Having someone pushing you into doing something is not positive. You have to want it yourself. And take time for yourself when you need it. Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’ to a request or invitation if you don’t have the energy. I know that I often repeat this in my posts, but its someting I’m still working on. And I try remind myself of these things periodically so I can try to stay focused.
What advice would you give to yourself or others?