When I was a little girl, my parents would often take our family on walks by the river. Most of the time, they would come up to me and tell me to get my jacket, because we were going for a walk. And I didn’t want to go. Once we got there, I was fine, but I didn’t like the unplanned nature of our trips. If they had given me warning, and told me that we were going in an hour, it would have given me the time needed to process the information and get excited.
Imagine my happiness when I learned that this is a pretty normal thing for an introvert.
I’m a very methodical person, I love having things planned out. Even when I have plans to spend time with people, but no schedule hashed out, I still have ideas of what we could do. And I always have a time frame in my mind. This past weekend, I went out with a couple of good friends. We were meeting up at noon, going to see a movie at 1 pm and hanging out for a bit longer if we all felt like it. In my mind, I was planning on what we could do after the movie, what things were nearby, and what time I wanted to head for home. I feel more comfortable when I know what’s going to happen, or what could happen. I like keeping my options open.
My extroverted roommate is the complete opposite. She’ll invite me to do things with her without giving me any warning. She’ll say things like, “hey I’m going to the gym right now, want to come?” or “want to grab a coffee?”. Typically I’ll already have planned out my schedule, and I’ll have to refuse. If she gives me a lot of warning, I’ll usually say yes. I have impulsively gone out for coffee with her, and really enjoyed it. I’ve also impulsively agreed to do things, and ended up completely exhausted. Now, I try to take my own vehicle when possible.
Growing up, I thought that something was wrong with me. Knowing that I was normal completely changed my perspective.
What are some of your experiences?