Since I need so much alone time to stay refreshed and rejuvenated, its hard to force myself to go out with people. But I’m learning that I can’t base my life on someone else’s opinion. When you stay at home by yourself, people might think that you’re reclusive or anti-social. This definitely isn’t true. But if you take the opposite approach and fill your social calendar, you get burned out. And when that happens, you can’t even properly contribute to anything anyway.
For me, after a few hours of socialization, I usually need several hours to recharge. If I’ve gotten overwhelmed and burned out, it takes a lot longer. I’m still working to balance taking care of myself and spending time with others.
There are a few posts I’ve read that have some good ideas on balancing your time. Some suggest giving yourself a certain number of social engagements a week/month, then sticking to that number. If anything additional comes up, you don’t have to feel guilty about refusing an invitation. And you can definitely prioritize certain events over others. That way, you won’t feel bad for taking a rain check on that coffee date, when you know you don’t have the energy. And in a lot of cases, things can be rescheduled.
How do you balance your alone time with your social life?